‘Let Them Wear The Dress’ Philosophy

Where discipline, boundaries, and structure can co-exist with letting go.

TAKING OFF THE ARMOR
4 min readSep 25, 2023

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It is funny how one triggering comment can set off a series of memories in some sort of mental validation you’re doing something right in this wild ride called life.

Our daughter is a fiery, witty, intelligent ginger. Her favorite thing to do with boundaries is to push them. (No idea where that comes from.) Her favorite pose for pictures is giving a sassy look with her lips pursed with her pointer finger and thumb in an L-shape cupping her face, or flashing a peace sign as some sort of goofy tweenie gangsta.

The other day, a friend saw pictures of Bianca on Facebook giving one of her famous poses. My friend commented, “She always makes that face. That is not the face a lady should make.” Phew…I needed to take a few deep breaths and bite my tongue hard to avoid saying, “The things you learn. I didn’t know there was a lady’s face-making protocol. Enlighten me.”

I have a very different take on individuality.

When Bianca was in preschool, she loved dresses, tutus, and pink. (And now brown is her favorite color…go figure.) She often came downstairs looking like a rainbow ambushed her. Pink, orange, blue, green, and yellow in varying shades of pastel, jewel, and…

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TAKING OFF THE ARMOR

Hi! I am a Veteran, Mom, nurse, writer, educator, blogger, and podcaster. Here to share issues impacting military transition. (Which impacts civilians too.)