We Can Accept And Own, But Need To Do This To Truly Transform

It’s a process.

TAKING OFF THE ARMOR
3 min readSep 20, 2023

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A person in a maroon and black shirt laying face down on the snow, holding a stick with a white flag, surrendering.
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I have been delayed in the San Antonio airport for the better part of 5 hours waiting for our plane to arrive. I’m tired, cold, and want a hot cup of tea but I'm too lazy to get up and find one. So, instead, I decided to people-watch, daydream, and tick away at the laptop keys.

In today’s random thoughts, the crack squirrels took a moment and reflected on my conversation with a Veteran’s spouse. Her husband has been struggling with untreated PTSD, and like many who struggle, it is a significant event that results in them getting the resources they have either avoided or wanted…but either way, needed.

The spouse, we’ll call her Jessica, was commenting that her husband has accepted and owned a lot — his struggle, where some of his issues stem from, his maladapted responses to situations, how his actions have hurt his family, the need for mental health care, etc. She said was proud of the steps he has taken, but she was keeping clear boundaries with him and cautiously evaluating the situation before she made any big decisions regarding their future as a family. All fair.

However, he is struggling to understand her response.

Let me preface my next thoughts as only my thoughts. I am not a therapist…will never claim to…

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TAKING OFF THE ARMOR

Hi! I am a Veteran, Mom, nurse, writer, educator, blogger, and podcaster. Here to share issues impacting military transition. (Which impacts civilians too.)